Our happiness and satisfaction is directly linked to the people with whom we live, and share our joys and sorrows, most importantly in our romantic relationships. However a good relationship gone bitter can cause frustration and depression. Here are a few healthy relationship advice (s) for you
Differentiate between the two “L”s
Is it love or just mere lust?
Many times people mess up with their feelings and fail to differentiate between love and sexual infatuation. Love and care are the most important elements of a happy relationship. Self-evaluate yourself, find out whether you actually love your partner or its just sexual attraction, and take actions accordingly. Remember, a harsh but right decision can get you find someone you love instead of lingering with someone you just find attractive.
Faking things won’t work. You can fake things for a short term but for a happy long term relationship you have to be yourself. Healthy relationships are made of real, wholehearted people. Remember your partner loves the REAL YOU so just show your love for them and try to give your best. It may take time to get comfortable but when you get the cards right, you will never feel alone and left out and there will always be someone t support you.
Live those small special moments
If possible go on a romantic date every two-three months or just a romantic outing or evening walk can work wonders. Be adventurous with your partner and try new things. Play games, learn cooking, listen to songs together, go trekking. These small things can make a big difference.
They establish a connection between you and your partner which is the most important part of a happy relationship.
Trust your partner
Love is meaningless without trust and affection. No one likes a suspicious lover who always keeps an eye on them. Let your partner enjoy some free space too. Doing this avoids boredom in a relationship. The feeling of trust is also an emotion booster. Let your partner feel safe and happy. After all, relationships are useless if you are not happy and satisfied.
Give more, expect less
Too many expectations can leave you disappointed. No one is perfect, neither you nor your partner. So stop expecting too much and try to give your best. Do small things which make them feel special. Make them feel they have someone with whom they can share everything, laugh cry and spend their life happily. Try to keep him/her happy. YOU ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU GIVE.
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Spend time together
Make your relationship a priority and make time for each other – even if you have to book it in. Regular ‘deposits in your relationship bank account’ will help protect your relationship. It has been found that you need to deposit five positive experiences as a couple to counteract the impact of one negative experience.
Learn from arguments
Accept that arguments will happen and try to resolve them peacefully.. Often in arguments, we become overwhelmed and this can often lead to behaviors that harm our relationship. It is important to stay calm during disagreements or, if this is not possible, to take time out. Respect your partner’s point of view and also learn convincing your point of views. YOU CAN CHANGE AN ARGUMENT INTO A DEBATE.
Talk to each other
Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you will be able to communicate well or can read your partner’s mind, or that they can read yours. Communicate your needs – don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you. If you have something to bring up, do it gently. Going on the attack rarely gets you what you want. It is also important to listen to each other. Often we are so busy defending ourselves that we don’t actually hear what our partner is saying. Focus on letting your partner know that you have heard them before you give them your response. Understand each other and soon you will be able to read your partner’s mind.
Sharing Out Responsibilities
Another major conflict in relationships is the issue of duties and responsibilities. The man should know what he must do to keep his home/relationship on track, while the woman should mind what she needs to do to make things work in the home. Be ready to share your responsibilities.
Last, but not the least..
Help your partner in stressful jobs. Live like a couple. Tell them your abilities and capacities calmly. Someone who loves you will always understand you. 🙂
What’s your secret for a healthy relationship? Please share your relationship advice (s) with us. We would love to hear from you. If it’s good, then it will be added to this post.
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